Thoughts on “Sins of a Father” Episode of “This is Life with Lisa Ling”
It seems that our justice system is tremendously flawed and in a dire need of an overhaul. There are far too many laws on the books that are sexually biased and unfitting of today’s society and technological advancements. It seems that most laws are created without much of a well thought out plan for the “what ifs” and “maybes” of a growing community. In the case of rape, it appears that the plans are to protect and appease the rapist and persecute the victim of rape. The most recent episode of “This is Life with Lisa Ling” showcased how too often the victim of rape is forced to relive her rape over and over again, while the rapist is treated with the most concern and appeasement for his feelings and undue rights. I feel that regardless of a plea bargain or a rape classification, if a person is convicted of rape, he should not have any rights related to the child that was created from that rape. I was very shocked when I heard of this and made it a point not to miss this episode. There were so many emotions that poured over me while I watched these women as they told the story of their rape and how now they are forced into co-parenting and the ongoing interaction that they must endure with their rapist. I was confused, angry, sad, confused and then angry all over again. What were these judges thinking? Aren’t judges allowed a certain air of common sense interjection? Again, what the hell were they thinking?
The thing that confused me the most with this issues is: if either of those ladies were dating a man that had been convicted of rape and had a child from a previous relationship, and then decided to live with that man with her child, one could argue that she should be charged with child endangerment. Why? Because, she brought her child into a situation that could present a threat or danger to his/her well-being. How is this any different from allowing a man who fathered a child through rape parental rights or not to mention unsupervised visits with the child? Are we crazy? Does it take a genius to realize that this shit is stupid? How is that going to affect the child later on? While during every visit the rape victim has to pray that their child is not in any danger because there is nothing that they can do to prevent it. With each visit they are raped all over again but this time it is by our judicial system. There has to be a better answer.