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Lately I am finding that social media is worse than the sticker shock that I get when I go shopping at the mall.  I am more often now than before gasping at the shit streaming through my feed.  And it does not matter what social media platform that I am on.  At least once a day, one of them is guaranteed to hurdle me into that “what the fuck and why” moment.  It seems that nothing is sacred or personal anymore.  And lawd knows it sure isn’t just done behind closed doors no more either.  I mean, what won’t people do for a click or a like and please don’t let there be a chance that they can get a follow out of it, things will really start to get interesting and downright unpredictable.  I try to do my best not to comment on some of the senseless photos and post that I see sometimes but there are times that I cannot help but take pause and comment “WHY?!” and move on.  Other times I just stop following or delete your ass because you make me want to throw up my insides.

 

What are we doing people?  Why are y’all posting sex videos and naked pics on a public platform that young impressionable minds have such easy access to.  Is it that you are just too damn stupid and need so much attention that you just don’t care?  You apparently don’t care about those young impressionable minds that are going to be traumatized by your dumb bullshit.  But of course, there is not much innocence on social media any way. Everything or at least most things seem to be “cover your eyes and close your ears kinda stuff”.  There used to be a time when people would dare not tell or show anyone outside of their own four walls and your bedroom closet half of the crap I see on social media nowadays.  But, I guess everybody is just desensitized to the things that I find offensive.  I would like to think that it was that simple, but I am not buying that or accepting that as my truth.  Shame on those of us that are so desperate for attention and human interaction that we would rather post the sins of our souls and the misfortunes of others than to just pick up the phone and call a friend and say, “hey girl, hey homey” or whatever.  “What you are doing, do you want to come over and chill for a minute?”, “Let’s hangout sometimes” or just check in on one another just to say, “How are you doing?”. We don’t really do that kind of real life shit anymore.  We only communicate through our laptops and cell phones via text messages and social media posts.  And then we wonder why the fuck we always feel lonely at the end of the day.  Hell, y’all sit in a room full of people just to have shit to post on your page and all the while ain’t experiencing a damn thing around you.

 

I’ll tell you why your ass is lonely, it is because through all of that mindless bullshit, you haven’t actually seen anybody outside of that damn screen on your phone or whatever other electronic device you’re hauling around at the time.  Humans need physical interaction and real intimacy not this pretend crap that most of us are so addicted to.  Ain’t shit intimate about a damn Instagram post or an update to your profile pic.  No wonder why there are so many fucked up people in this world.  We don’t know what the fuck to do in the “Real World” any more.  If it ain’t on a lighted screen most of us are lost.  The presence of the internet has turned most of us into reflections of chaos and distortion.  I have said it once before and I will say it again, “Everybody wanna claim they woke but most y’all sleep walking and don’t even know it”.  Stop doing dumb shit for likes and posts. Fix your life y’all.  Fix your mother fucking life.  Everything ain’t got to be for a like or another re-post.  Learn to enjoy the moments in life for what they truly are.  Embrace life instead making your life just a collection of posts on your timeline that you can barely remember.

 

 

Often times we come into situations and experiences with people that leave our hearts and our homes in disarray. The challenge to coming out of these experiences and situations with our sanity and not having our lives become complete and utter chaos, is learning to identify the lesson.  Making a conscience decision to find new joy on the other end.  It is not always easy and we have to want to return to our happy place bad enough to allow the healing.  I believe that people come into our lives for various reasons, some are good and some are not.  Some are meant to stay for a spell and some are meant to remain for a life time, but whatever the reason for their visit we have to be open and cognizant of the lessons the are learned while they were there.  Even in the most devastating and horrific battles of life there is the opportunity for growth and renewal, but it is up to us each individually to cease those opportunities of renewal and growth in order for the bliss and wonderful waves of renewed glory to occur.

Never let them steal your joy.

 

Love,

Mia (@TheTheoryofMia) 

 

 

Domestic violence is a very serious concern for me.  I have witnessed so many women that I know and love fall victim to domestic violence and I have never once thought of this as acceptable or necessary.  How can one profess their love to you and turn around and hurt you worse than any one else ever would?  Men and women that use violence, fear and intimidation to control and hurt the people that care and adore them are predators.  They prey on the weak and insecure to make themselves feel strong and powerful in situations that they cannot control.  I feel that these are weak and cowardly individuals that seized the opportunity to demean, torture and violate those that they felt were weaker than them or whose strength somehow shames them for their short comings and inadequacies. They are monsters that feed on the power they feel when they are able to cast their pain and discontent for the world on others. Their disillusions of power lead them to feel that somehow the pain and destruction they inflict on others is deserved.  And over time they become magnificent salesmen of this image and their victims believe them.

The abusers in these situations are not innocent by any means, no matter what they may want us to believe.  The word “love” should never be attached to a black eye and bruised ribs.  That, to me, is hate not love.  My heart and my anguish goes out to anyone male or female that is the victim of such a situation.  I know that a situation such as this is not easy to escape and I know I do not have all the answers, but I hope that anyone in this situation finds the strength and the opportunity to get out and stay safe.  If you are reading this and you know anyone that is going through this hell and you do nothing, you are helping the abuser to commit this awful crime.  If you see something or know something and you do nothing you might as well had done it yourself.  Please do not just stand by and be a witness to such a horrible threat to our society.  This is not a crime that should be covered up and kept a secret it needs to be exposed and eliminated.

@TheTheoryofMia

 

National Abuse Hotline: http://www.thehotline.org/

1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or for Deaf callers on video phone 1-855-812-1001 (Monday to Friday, 9 a.m.—5 p.m. PST) or TTY 1-800-787-3224.

 

Why is being faithful to someone such a hard and complicated task?  People can come up with several dozen reasons on why they cheated but very few seem to be able to explain why they chose to cheat instead of just leaving the relationship.  Those that can explain when pressed, can generally only come up with selfish reasons for their infidelity.  They always had the choice to leave instead of cheating and hurting the one they “love” yet their choice was to cheat.

Is the rise in divorce and broken homes the result of our lack luster approach to relationships?  Everyone seems to go into a relationship with an exit strategy.  Even before the I dos are done and the ink is dry on the marriage certificate one or both partners have already laid out how they plan to “be okay” if this does not work out.  No one seems to be really in it for the long haul.  Relationships are work, marriages are hard work and you have to be committed to work through the pitfalls and the rainy days in order to appreciate the sunshine and drank the lemonade.

We must learn that cheating shows that you no longer respect are value the relationship that we are in.  If you know in your heart that you are not going to be faithful, then be honest with yourself and the person that you are with and don’t bamboozle them into thinking that you will be. There are way too many people that share your same lack of commitment that you can go hook up with.  Furthermore, there are too many diseases and crazy people in the world for you to be so reckless and selfish that you would put someone that has placed their heart in your hands at risk for what usually amounts to a worthless ass booty call.

 

@TheTheoryofMia

 

When it comes to a woman’s right to use oral contraception, to have or not to have a child we have to remember that these are choices that should neither be taken lightly or selfishly.  Over the years this discussion has been one that has divided households and left us playing GOD.  I believe that every life should have the right to become a life and live.  However, I do not profess to know all the answers and I feel that sometimes we get so caught up in pushing our own agendas to the point that no one is listening to each other and the real problems and consequences are never addressed.

We as Americans have a very beautiful and rewarding life in that we actually have the opportunities to vote and weigh in on most subjects and laws that we are governed by.  An opportunity that most people in other countries would never ever have the power to do.  Yet we take these privileges for granted.  Those of us deemed as the rich and powerful use them to take advantage of those that are not as economically advantaged to lay down our own “Law of the Land” and create a freedom that we dictate based on our own prejudices and beliefs.

 

@TheTheoryofMia

 

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