Domestic violence is a very serious concern for me. I have witnessed so many women that I know and love fall victim to domestic violence and I have never once thought of this as acceptable or necessary. How can one profess their love to you and turn around and hurt you worse than any one else ever would? Men and women that use violence, fear and intimidation to control and hurt the people that care and adore them are predators. They prey on the weak and insecure to make themselves feel strong and powerful in situations that they cannot control. I feel that these are weak and cowardly individuals that seized the opportunity to demean, torture and violate those that they felt were weaker than them or whose strength somehow shames them for their short comings and inadequacies. They are monsters that feed on the power they feel when they are able to cast their pain and discontent for the world on others. Their disillusions of power lead them to feel that somehow the pain and destruction they inflict on others is deserved. And over time they become magnificent salesmen of this image and their victims believe them.
The abusers in these situations are not innocent by any means, no matter what they may want us to believe. The word “love” should never be attached to a black eye and bruised ribs. That, to me, is hate not love. My heart and my anguish goes out to anyone male or female that is the victim of such a situation. I know that a situation such as this is not easy to escape and I know I do not have all the answers, but I hope that anyone in this situation finds the strength and the opportunity to get out and stay safe. If you are reading this and you know anyone that is going through this hell and you do nothing, you are helping the abuser to commit this awful crime. If you see something or know something and you do nothing you might as well had done it yourself. Please do not just stand by and be a witness to such a horrible threat to our society. This is not a crime that should be covered up and kept a secret it needs to be exposed and eliminated.
National Abuse Hotline: http://www.thehotline.org/
1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or for Deaf callers on video phone 1-855-812-1001 (Monday to Friday, 9 a.m.—5 p.m. PST) or TTY 1-800-787-3224.