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Life has taught me and is still teaching me many things.

As I grow older my value of myself and things that I encompass increases and so does the duties and the work to ensure that the ones that I surround myself with are true.

We come in contact with many people throughout our lives and we enter into various types of relationships and friendships along the way. In going through the stages of life we must learn to discern what value these interactions hold. Not every bad relationship or friendship was or will be a waste. There was and will be a lesson to be learned in the good and the bad. Some lessons are just not as obvious as others. Me mindful of the company you keep and the company you are to others for just as you can unknowingly welcome bad company to the table so can you be the bad company that showed up to be seated. At every intersection there is a choice of which direction you should go. Try to take the one that leads you to where you are welcomed and want to be when you get there.

Time is a precious thing don’t waste it chasing those that don’t want to be caught. Some people are just mirages of what you thought was worthy of an invitation into your life. Never sacrifice your joy or your future for those that would just as well stand by and applaud your pain and misfortunes.

Live, love and laugh but keep in mind that just as you want others to be to you, you should also be to others…the road travels in both directions.

Another year is coming to a close and the another year is on the horizon to bring about new challenges and new opportunities.  I feel that for me, it is always important that I take the time throughout the year and especially at the end of the year, to evaluate myself to determine if I have shown growth during the year.  I try to avoid carrying unhealthy relationships and baggage from one year to the next.  I feel that often times people limit their potential by the number of toxic people that they surround themselves with.  I choose to be vigilant in eliminating people from my circle that are only there to pollute the air with negativity and bad intentions.  Sometimes you got to know when to let go and find a better enviroment to be in.  So keeping with that mind set as each year closes I ask myself, “Is there anything that I would have done or could have done differently to make my life or the life better?”.  Is there anyone that I feel that I need to make a better impression on or build a better relationship with?  Have I been the best person that I can be given the tools that I had to work with?  Once I have gone through those questions, I place my responses into three major categories:  Things that I am willing to keep, things I need let go and things that I need to work on.

My goal is to make the list of things that I need to work on and the things that I need to let go smaller and smaller each year.  The most difficult challenge is letting things go and never picking them back up again.

@TheTheoryofMia

Why is being faithful to someone such a hard and complicated task?  People can come up with several dozen reasons on why they cheated but very few seem to be able to explain why they chose to cheat instead of just leaving the relationship.  Those that can explain when pressed, can generally only come up with selfish reasons for their infidelity.  They always had the choice to leave instead of cheating and hurting the one they “love” yet their choice was to cheat.

Is the rise in divorce and broken homes the result of our lack luster approach to relationships?  Everyone seems to go into a relationship with an exit strategy.  Even before the I dos are done and the ink is dry on the marriage certificate one or both partners have already laid out how they plan to “be okay” if this does not work out.  No one seems to be really in it for the long haul.  Relationships are work, marriages are hard work and you have to be committed to work through the pitfalls and the rainy days in order to appreciate the sunshine and drank the lemonade.

We must learn that cheating shows that you no longer respect are value the relationship that we are in.  If you know in your heart that you are not going to be faithful, then be honest with yourself and the person that you are with and don’t bamboozle them into thinking that you will be. There are way too many people that share your same lack of commitment that you can go hook up with.  Furthermore, there are too many diseases and crazy people in the world for you to be so reckless and selfish that you would put someone that has placed their heart in your hands at risk for what usually amounts to a worthless ass booty call.

 

@TheTheoryofMia

 

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