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Life has taught me and is still teaching me many things.

As I grow older my value of myself and things that I encompass increases and so does the duties and the work to ensure that the ones that I surround myself with are true.

We come in contact with many people throughout our lives and we enter into various types of relationships and friendships along the way. In going through the stages of life we must learn to discern what value these interactions hold. Not every bad relationship or friendship was or will be a waste. There was and will be a lesson to be learned in the good and the bad. Some lessons are just not as obvious as others. Me mindful of the company you keep and the company you are to others for just as you can unknowingly welcome bad company to the table so can you be the bad company that showed up to be seated. At every intersection there is a choice of which direction you should go. Try to take the one that leads you to where you are welcomed and want to be when you get there.

Time is a precious thing don’t waste it chasing those that don’t want to be caught. Some people are just mirages of what you thought was worthy of an invitation into your life. Never sacrifice your joy or your future for those that would just as well stand by and applaud your pain and misfortunes.

Live, love and laugh but keep in mind that just as you want others to be to you, you should also be to others…the road travels in both directions.

Domestic violence is a very serious concern for me.  I have witnessed so many women that I know and love fall victim to domestic violence and I have never once thought of this as acceptable or necessary.  How can one profess their love to you and turn around and hurt you worse than any one else ever would?  Men and women that use violence, fear and intimidation to control and hurt the people that care and adore them are predators.  They prey on the weak and insecure to make themselves feel strong and powerful in situations that they cannot control.  I feel that these are weak and cowardly individuals that seized the opportunity to demean, torture and violate those that they felt were weaker than them or whose strength somehow shames them for their short comings and inadequacies. They are monsters that feed on the power they feel when they are able to cast their pain and discontent for the world on others. Their disillusions of power lead them to feel that somehow the pain and destruction they inflict on others is deserved.  And over time they become magnificent salesmen of this image and their victims believe them.

The abusers in these situations are not innocent by any means, no matter what they may want us to believe.  The word “love” should never be attached to a black eye and bruised ribs.  That, to me, is hate not love.  My heart and my anguish goes out to anyone male or female that is the victim of such a situation.  I know that a situation such as this is not easy to escape and I know I do not have all the answers, but I hope that anyone in this situation finds the strength and the opportunity to get out and stay safe.  If you are reading this and you know anyone that is going through this hell and you do nothing, you are helping the abuser to commit this awful crime.  If you see something or know something and you do nothing you might as well had done it yourself.  Please do not just stand by and be a witness to such a horrible threat to our society.  This is not a crime that should be covered up and kept a secret it needs to be exposed and eliminated.

@TheTheoryofMia

 

National Abuse Hotline: http://www.thehotline.org/

1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or for Deaf callers on video phone 1-855-812-1001 (Monday to Friday, 9 a.m.—5 p.m. PST) or TTY 1-800-787-3224.

 

Why is being faithful to someone such a hard and complicated task?  People can come up with several dozen reasons on why they cheated but very few seem to be able to explain why they chose to cheat instead of just leaving the relationship.  Those that can explain when pressed, can generally only come up with selfish reasons for their infidelity.  They always had the choice to leave instead of cheating and hurting the one they “love” yet their choice was to cheat.

Is the rise in divorce and broken homes the result of our lack luster approach to relationships?  Everyone seems to go into a relationship with an exit strategy.  Even before the I dos are done and the ink is dry on the marriage certificate one or both partners have already laid out how they plan to “be okay” if this does not work out.  No one seems to be really in it for the long haul.  Relationships are work, marriages are hard work and you have to be committed to work through the pitfalls and the rainy days in order to appreciate the sunshine and drank the lemonade.

We must learn that cheating shows that you no longer respect are value the relationship that we are in.  If you know in your heart that you are not going to be faithful, then be honest with yourself and the person that you are with and don’t bamboozle them into thinking that you will be. There are way too many people that share your same lack of commitment that you can go hook up with.  Furthermore, there are too many diseases and crazy people in the world for you to be so reckless and selfish that you would put someone that has placed their heart in your hands at risk for what usually amounts to a worthless ass booty call.

 

@TheTheoryofMia

 

When it comes to a woman’s right to use oral contraception, to have or not to have a child we have to remember that these are choices that should neither be taken lightly or selfishly.  Over the years this discussion has been one that has divided households and left us playing GOD.  I believe that every life should have the right to become a life and live.  However, I do not profess to know all the answers and I feel that sometimes we get so caught up in pushing our own agendas to the point that no one is listening to each other and the real problems and consequences are never addressed.

We as Americans have a very beautiful and rewarding life in that we actually have the opportunities to vote and weigh in on most subjects and laws that we are governed by.  An opportunity that most people in other countries would never ever have the power to do.  Yet we take these privileges for granted.  Those of us deemed as the rich and powerful use them to take advantage of those that are not as economically advantaged to lay down our own “Law of the Land” and create a freedom that we dictate based on our own prejudices and beliefs.

 

@TheTheoryofMia

 

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