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Lately I am finding that social media is worse than the sticker shock that I get when I go shopping at the mall.  I am more often now than before gasping at the shit streaming through my feed.  And it does not matter what social media platform that I am on.  At least once a day, one of them is guaranteed to hurdle me into that “what the fuck and why” moment.  It seems that nothing is sacred or personal anymore.  And lawd knows it sure isn’t just done behind closed doors no more either.  I mean, what won’t people do for a click or a like and please don’t let there be a chance that they can get a follow out of it, things will really start to get interesting and downright unpredictable.  I try to do my best not to comment on some of the senseless photos and post that I see sometimes but there are times that I cannot help but take pause and comment “WHY?!” and move on.  Other times I just stop following or delete your ass because you make me want to throw up my insides.

 

What are we doing people?  Why are y’all posting sex videos and naked pics on a public platform that young impressionable minds have such easy access to.  Is it that you are just too damn stupid and need so much attention that you just don’t care?  You apparently don’t care about those young impressionable minds that are going to be traumatized by your dumb bullshit.  But of course, there is not much innocence on social media any way. Everything or at least most things seem to be “cover your eyes and close your ears kinda stuff”.  There used to be a time when people would dare not tell or show anyone outside of their own four walls and your bedroom closet half of the crap I see on social media nowadays.  But, I guess everybody is just desensitized to the things that I find offensive.  I would like to think that it was that simple, but I am not buying that or accepting that as my truth.  Shame on those of us that are so desperate for attention and human interaction that we would rather post the sins of our souls and the misfortunes of others than to just pick up the phone and call a friend and say, “hey girl, hey homey” or whatever.  “What you are doing, do you want to come over and chill for a minute?”, “Let’s hangout sometimes” or just check in on one another just to say, “How are you doing?”. We don’t really do that kind of real life shit anymore.  We only communicate through our laptops and cell phones via text messages and social media posts.  And then we wonder why the fuck we always feel lonely at the end of the day.  Hell, y’all sit in a room full of people just to have shit to post on your page and all the while ain’t experiencing a damn thing around you.

 

I’ll tell you why your ass is lonely, it is because through all of that mindless bullshit, you haven’t actually seen anybody outside of that damn screen on your phone or whatever other electronic device you’re hauling around at the time.  Humans need physical interaction and real intimacy not this pretend crap that most of us are so addicted to.  Ain’t shit intimate about a damn Instagram post or an update to your profile pic.  No wonder why there are so many fucked up people in this world.  We don’t know what the fuck to do in the “Real World” any more.  If it ain’t on a lighted screen most of us are lost.  The presence of the internet has turned most of us into reflections of chaos and distortion.  I have said it once before and I will say it again, “Everybody wanna claim they woke but most y’all sleep walking and don’t even know it”.  Stop doing dumb shit for likes and posts. Fix your life y’all.  Fix your mother fucking life.  Everything ain’t got to be for a like or another re-post.  Learn to enjoy the moments in life for what they truly are.  Embrace life instead making your life just a collection of posts on your timeline that you can barely remember.

 

 

Life has taught me and is still teaching me many things.

As I grow older my value of myself and things that I encompass increases and so does the duties and the work to ensure that the ones that I surround myself with are true.

We come in contact with many people throughout our lives and we enter into various types of relationships and friendships along the way. In going through the stages of life we must learn to discern what value these interactions hold. Not every bad relationship or friendship was or will be a waste. There was and will be a lesson to be learned in the good and the bad. Some lessons are just not as obvious as others. Me mindful of the company you keep and the company you are to others for just as you can unknowingly welcome bad company to the table so can you be the bad company that showed up to be seated. At every intersection there is a choice of which direction you should go. Try to take the one that leads you to where you are welcomed and want to be when you get there.

Time is a precious thing don’t waste it chasing those that don’t want to be caught. Some people are just mirages of what you thought was worthy of an invitation into your life. Never sacrifice your joy or your future for those that would just as well stand by and applaud your pain and misfortunes.

Live, love and laugh but keep in mind that just as you want others to be to you, you should also be to others…the road travels in both directions.

Often times we come into situations and experiences with people that leave our hearts and our homes in disarray. The challenge to coming out of these experiences and situations with our sanity and not having our lives become complete and utter chaos, is learning to identify the lesson.  Making a conscience decision to find new joy on the other end.  It is not always easy and we have to want to return to our happy place bad enough to allow the healing.  I believe that people come into our lives for various reasons, some are good and some are not.  Some are meant to stay for a spell and some are meant to remain for a life time, but whatever the reason for their visit we have to be open and cognizant of the lessons the are learned while they were there.  Even in the most devastating and horrific battles of life there is the opportunity for growth and renewal, but it is up to us each individually to cease those opportunities of renewal and growth in order for the bliss and wonderful waves of renewed glory to occur.

Never let them steal your joy.

 

Love,

Mia (@TheTheoryofMia) 

 

 

I have constantly toyed with the question, “Which is more important Faith or Religion?”. I strongly believe that there is a difference between the two.  For me “Faith” has to do with how I live my life and how my morals and beliefs dictate my day-to-day actions and interactions with other people.  Whereas, Religion for me is the rituals or behaviors that I would do to enhance my Faith.

I have heard for many years, “You are a really good person, you would be the perfect Christian if you just went to church.” What the hell does that even mean?  Are they saying that me being a good person is not enough to consider me a Christian?  Is my poor attendance at church a mandatory requirement that somehow disproportionately gives me a pass or fail rating on the Christian grading scale?  I always felt that the more important part of being a Christian was how I lived my life and loved thy neighbor.  Everyone has heard the “What would Jesus do?” slogan.  Well, I believe that I do a whole lot of that and I do not feel that going to church or not going to church should be a discredit to my goodwill and my dedication to being a good person.  I have a strong belief in GOD and all that he is.  I work really hard to show that I am appreciative all the blessings that he has provided me on a daily basis and have no shame in calling his name and introducing him to others that do not know him or refuse to acknowledge his presence.  I may not go to church every Sunday but I have far less to repent for than most that do.

I believe that there is no judge as harsh as the ones that call themselves Christians.  It is sad but true.  If the bible teaches us not to judge and that that GOD is the only true judge.  Why do we (Christians) always feel the need to do so.  Is it because to look at others and place shame and call out their flaws somehow makes us feel as though we have none, or that ours or lesser in comparison?  That is silly and hypocritical at best.  I would always rather live my life as a Christian then go to church every Sunday and just pretend that I am. My Faith is far more important to me than my Religion ever could be. Therefore, I feel that to consider me any less of a Christian for my poor church attendance is just stupid.

Domestic violence is a very serious concern for me.  I have witnessed so many women that I know and love fall victim to domestic violence and I have never once thought of this as acceptable or necessary.  How can one profess their love to you and turn around and hurt you worse than any one else ever would?  Men and women that use violence, fear and intimidation to control and hurt the people that care and adore them are predators.  They prey on the weak and insecure to make themselves feel strong and powerful in situations that they cannot control.  I feel that these are weak and cowardly individuals that seized the opportunity to demean, torture and violate those that they felt were weaker than them or whose strength somehow shames them for their short comings and inadequacies. They are monsters that feed on the power they feel when they are able to cast their pain and discontent for the world on others. Their disillusions of power lead them to feel that somehow the pain and destruction they inflict on others is deserved.  And over time they become magnificent salesmen of this image and their victims believe them.

The abusers in these situations are not innocent by any means, no matter what they may want us to believe.  The word “love” should never be attached to a black eye and bruised ribs.  That, to me, is hate not love.  My heart and my anguish goes out to anyone male or female that is the victim of such a situation.  I know that a situation such as this is not easy to escape and I know I do not have all the answers, but I hope that anyone in this situation finds the strength and the opportunity to get out and stay safe.  If you are reading this and you know anyone that is going through this hell and you do nothing, you are helping the abuser to commit this awful crime.  If you see something or know something and you do nothing you might as well had done it yourself.  Please do not just stand by and be a witness to such a horrible threat to our society.  This is not a crime that should be covered up and kept a secret it needs to be exposed and eliminated.

@TheTheoryofMia

 

National Abuse Hotline: http://www.thehotline.org/

1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or for Deaf callers on video phone 1-855-812-1001 (Monday to Friday, 9 a.m.—5 p.m. PST) or TTY 1-800-787-3224.

 

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